Have you ever looked back on your week and felt like you never got to see your loved ones? You might have seen them here and there, but never really had the chance to sit down and just relax with them, maybe watch a movie or talk about how their week is going. Busy weeks happen to all of us. It can feel like we keep adding more things onto our to-do list, rather than crossing items off. And when we have these busy weeks it seems like our work life runs into our home life, never giving us a time to relax and enjoy our time with loved ones.
Even though it can be hard to make time for you loved ones during these busy weeks, it is a must do thing! We all know the feeling when we haven’t spoken much to a loved one as much as we want because they’re busy – maybe we didn’t get the chance to tell them a funny story that happened at work. We don’t enjoy feeling disconnected from our partners especially. We all do enjoy feeling important in loved one’s lives, so we must make efforts to make our partners a priority as well. All in all, it can be pretty sucky not having that normal quality time throughout the week.
And ultimately, you do not want this to become a habit, because that can make or break a relationship. Making sure it does not become habit does take work and time! It must be a conscious thing that we do, in order to maintain our connections with loved ones, especially our partners.
So how do you connect with loved ones during a hectic week? Gia Ravazzotti wrote an article on MindBodyGreen outlining 5 easy ways to connect to your loved ones and partner throughout the week.
No matter how busy you are, you must take time to make the other person feel important ~ Mary Kay Ash
- Carve out sufficient time for connection.
When things are busy, it’s easy to feel like it’s impossible to make time for anything else besides the things we “have to do.” But the reality is that even during these times, most of us still make time for things like social media and television, even if it’s unintentional. So we can be more intentional with our free minutes, and consciously make time for our partners.
Although things like mindlessly checking Facebook or watching silly TV shows might feel like they relax us, taking five minutes to have a catch up with your partner will go a much longer way in terms of overall well-being. So set aside time to check in with each other. It will help you continue feeling connected, even if the feeling of connection coexists with overwhelm.
- Send a mindful text message.
You know that feeling when you are going about your day and suddenly you remember and miss your beloved? Well, rather than wait until you see them again, let them know in a text. It doesn’t have to be Shakespearean prose, or an especially heavy message. Just send a simple smoke signal — something like, “Miss you!” or “Thinking of you!” These kinds of messages will let your partner know that you feel connected to them, even if you are stuck at the office.
- Channel loving energy.
What if you’re literally bouncing from meeting to meeting, or are traveling for work? You may feel like there’s not a second to spare, even if you want to be cultivating a deeper connection with your partner. Well, even when there isn’t time to send a text, there’s always time to send some loving vibes in your partner’s direction. Sure, your partner may or may not feel it, but you certainly will feel energetically more connected.
- Show affection with something tangible.
If you feel as if you and your partner are constantly missing each other due to mismatched schedules, or general busyness, do something concrete that will let them know you are thinking of them. A small gesture such as leaving a cup of tea by their bedside before you leave in the morning, or leaving a little note on their pillow in the evening, will make your partner feel loved and special, even if you aren’t able to spend much time together.
- Remember the power of praise.
Whether you tell them or someone else something you admire about your beloved, it will enhance your feelings toward them. It also may give you permission to say those things to them when you do see them next. Getting in touch with your gratitude and respect for your partner may elicit a feeling of tenderness when you are together. There is a lot to be said for our energetic interactions, and infusing your togetherness with feelings of love will make a big difference.
Making these simple gestures toward one another is often a breeding ground for more. Letting them know that you are still thinking of them, and appreciating them will deepen your connection and let you both know that even though there may not be very much time, you still mean the world to one another.
To read Gia’s article, 5 Ways To Connect With Your Partner During A Busy Week, click on the link – http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-18342/5-ways-to-connect-with-your-partner-during-a-busy-week.html.
If you have a hard time connecting with your partner or loved ones, give us a call to set up a free phone consultation at Life Skills Resource Group Orlando at 407-355-7378. Cindy Fabico, Risa Bos, and Kelli Skorman, our Orlando Couples Counselors and Orlando Marriage Counselors, are experienced in helping you and your partner work on building a stronger connection with each other. If you would like to work on yourself, individually first, our Orlando Individual Counselors, Amy Smith and Jessica Carmean, would be more than happy to help you.