The Faces of Fatherhood

ByDr. Darlene Treese “To become a father is not hard; to be a father is, however.” Wilhelm Busch In our ever-changing society, the traditional “dad” role has basically disappeared. We have single dads, divorced dads, step-dads, stay-at-home dads, widowed dads, distance dads, blended families…. with parenting roles and obligations muddled. So in this mix of […]

Self-Compassion and Consistent Habits- An Essential Pairing for Emotional Health

As I waited for my friends to arrive for my birthday weekend I reflected on the path that I’ve been on over the last two years. The truth is I had some rocky years after my divorce in 2012 and I kept finding myself back in a place of darkness and self-loathing. If you scroll […]

4 Steps and 5 Questions for Taking Control of Your Emotions

I talk to so many people who feel a sense of desperation and hopelessness on their path to emotional freedom. I feel so much hope for them. The story generally goes something like this; “Cindy I started practicing and applying the tools you gave me and I was feeling so much better….and then X happened […]

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear?”

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving until the right action arises by itself?” -Lao Tzu One of the guarantees in living is that I will be triggered by people, events, experiences. My path toward learning to assimilate these triggers into personal growth […]

Dads and Discipline

ByDr. Darlene Treese “For the very true beginning of wisdom is discipline; and the core of discipline is love.” -Solomon One of the most common beliefs in our society is that it is necessary and desirable fordads to use their authority to control, direct and train their children. Dads are sometimesdesignated as the disciplinarian (“Wait […]


“We must be steadfast in our love for ourselves, both when we soar and when we stumble.” -Rolf Gates in Meditations from the Mat Making mistakes is a fact of life. It is how I respond to my mistakes that makes all the difference.  Once I can fully accept the idea that I am doing the […]


A few days ago I had one of those “lightbulb” moments.  I was in the bathtub listening to Sam Harris’s soothing voice (the neuroscientist, not the musician)on the Waking Up meditation app and I heard him tell me to meditate on my thoughts as they appeared. This meditation instruction caused my mind to instantly say […]

Anxiety and the Return to Normal Life

Well, we’re nearing the light at the end of this COVID tunnel and slowly making adjustments toward re-engaging in normal life. That’s great, right?  (cue blood curdling scream)  Hang on a minute… While many people may be champing at the bit to “get back out there” and resume normal life: going back to the office, […]

YOU are NOT what you FEEL!

One of the lessons that life has given me seemingly unlimited opportunities to learn is that when I identify too strongly with a difficult feeling I can create a powerful experience of personal suffering. Science has not yet fully sorted out whether depression and anxiety are biological or learned behaviors but that doesn’t really matter […]

Positive Thinking & Positive Affirmations

So often we think in terms of negatives: I don’t want to be poor in my older age, I don’t want to fight with my kids, I don’t want my boss to be angry with me, and on and on. Problem is, the filters inside your brain are assessing everything you think about, and don’t necessarily take into account the “don’t” […]

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