When Life Feels Messy

When Life Feels Messy

Cindy Fabico, MA, NCC, LMHC, LMFT

Change is beautiful when we are brave enough to evolve with it.

-Bryant McGill

My life can feel very messy sometimes. Actually it can feel that way fairly often because life IS inherently messy.

Messy doesn’t mean broken or bad or hopeless. Messy is normal. If I think about it, I realize that any expectation of orderliness is basically insanity.
Insanity can be defined as “extreme folly or unreasonableness” according to Webster’s. The antidote to insanity therefore is being reasonable.
Here are 6 reasonable responses I can choose when life gives me messes:

  1. I can remember that I am a creative being capable of finding a fresh way to approach my messes.
  2. I can change my attitude toward my mess. What I see as hopeless IS hopeless.
  3. I can become consciously aware of how my inner dialogue has the capacity to make me feel either powerless or empowered.
  4. I can take a closer look at who I spend time with. Do they talk about themselves as victims or victors?
  5. I can find role models who have been successful at using setbacks as opportunities.
  6. I can remind myself that everything is alway in transition and becoming too attached to what is happening now (either good or not good) leads to unnecessary suffering.

If I consistently choose these 6 responses I feel mastery over my messes and my life begins to change because I am both creative and brave enough to try a new way. This is evolution.

Inspired by the 9/3/20 daily guide from The Guide for Spiritual Living written by Jane Beach.

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Cindy Fabico, MA, NCC, RYT200 Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist MT2724 Licensed Mental Health Counselor MH8555 Founder & CoOwner Life Skills Resource Group