This week’s blog post will be about something a little different from our most recent one’s.
Although it has to do with our ability to believe in our selves, and illicit self-love, it is more so something that branches off of courage and faith in new beginnings.
What I’m talking about is stepping outside of your comfort zone.
What one person may consider their comfort zone, can be completely and utterly different from the person standing right next to them. For some people, public speaking is considered out of their comfort zone. For others, approaching a complete stranger because they have spiked an interest in them is considered stepping out of their comfort zone. And still, for others, it may be something as adventurous as skydiving or white water rafting. Whatever it is that you define as stepping out of your comfort zone, no matter how big or small it may seem to others, is still considered a big accomplishment for you. And at the end of the day, you should take great pride in that.
Sometimes people can mistake throwing caution to the wind for stepping outside of their comfort zone. You do not have to do something deliriously dangerous to be able to push yourself to new limits. Stepping outside of your comfort zone could be anything that opposes what you feel is, well, comfortable. For example, I found a great article by Melissa Field on TinyBuddha titled, Beautiful Things Can Happen When We Step Outside Our Comfort Zone, that tells a personal story about stepping out of one’s comfort zone. Melissa uprooted herself to a different state all by herself and, on her move in day, ended up getting invited to an engagement party.
What she decided to do next was something completely out of character… she said, “yes”. Melissa reveals that her inner dialogue upon accepting this invitation was no where near as confident as she may have sounded when agreeing to go. She was scared. She was aware that she wouldn’t know anyone that was there, but she felt that this was something she needed to do- for herself. She felt that although there were plenty of moments of discomfort or feelings of “awkwardness” due to being at a party in a house full of people she was unfamiliar with, there were also plenty of reasons as to why she made the right decision.
The following is an excerpt from Melissa’s article about her personal experience:
Everyone at the table was talking to someone but me. I wasn’t sure what to do. I knew at this point my presence was weird. But you know what? No one has ever died from being uncomfortable. So I just rolled with it.
I sipped my drink, looked around, and considered if I should stay or go. I decided to hang out a bit longer because I wasn’t quite ready to walk away.
I lingered in the corner alone, probably looking a little creepy. I grabbed another drink and listened to a speech and I realized then that I didn’t want to leave. Being a little uncomfortable but surrounded by happy people, live music, and an amazing vibe sounded a lot better than being comfortable and sitting on the couch watching Netflix.
I then grabbed some food and saw a guy standing alone at a table. This was when I finally found the magic. Not the kind of magic that ends in us realizing we’re soul mates. The guy was actually nineteen (I’m thirty-four), and soon after I started talking to him his mom came over.
They were two of the most amazing people I’ve ever met. I was so relieved I hadn’t run off when it got hard. I was relieved I was there, to meet this guy, who was so smart and interesting and who made me think, “Wow, I wish I could follow his journey and see what kind of impact he makes. I know he’s going to do something awesome.”
I was so delighted with these people who didn’t look at their cellphones the whole night. It’s been a long time since a stranger has given me that much of their time and attention just because. To feel a connection like that, with people I’d just met… magic.
The message that this passage passes along is that, sometimes we dive into things and think, “what have I gotten myself into this time?”- sound familiar? And, as a natural reaction, sometimes we panic and want to leave or just give up.
But there is beauty in letting things take a natural progression. By allowing things to unfold the way they are meant to, sometimes we allow ourselves the ability to walk away with something far greater than what we walked into the situation with.
How many times have we thought over and over again, “I wish I had just had the nerve to do this” or “if I had only done that, maybe things would be different”. We don’t have to regret doing, or not doing things, but sometimes it can put our mind at ease to just know what would have been, because we actually gave it a fair chance to happen.
Are you struggling with stepping outside of your comfort zone, exploring your talents and capabilities or would like some guidance with branching out, or are you just interested in talking to someone about things going on in your life because you simply feel that you do not as you should? Sometimes having a partner in your journey can help. Give us a call to set up a free phone consultation at Life Skills Resource Group Orlando at 407-355-7378, and one of our Orlando Individual Counselors, Orlando Life Coaches, Orlando Teen Counselors, and Orlando Child counselors would be more than happy to help you, a family member, or a friend work on changing your life.