Do You Find Yourself Trapped in Being “Nice” or “Too Nice”?

For those who don’t know, I spend a lot of time working with men and women who have experienced trauma – both singular traumatic events, prolonged toxic relationships, recurrent abuses, and lack of atunement with caregivers during early childhood. Inevitably part of our work focuses on helping them re–establish boundaries that have been lost, or […]

Saying YES to Things That Scare Us

  Saying YES (and also No, when necessary).   You may recognize the name Shonda Rhimes as the creator of the shows Greys Anatomy and Scandal. A few years ago, she wrote a book, “Year of Yes: How To Dance It Out, Stand In The Sun, and Be Your Own Person.” She talks about how […]

Controlling Anxiety By Cultivating Inner Calm

    In this current climate of political unrest, public outrage, violence, natural disasters and the like, it is hard not to feel the turbulence within our psyches and our emotions.  We are inundated with immediate news, as our technology allows instant documenting and reporting of some heinous incident or another.  All day long, we […]

Embracing the Suck

  LIFE IS HARD! Not exactly a shocking realization for most people, I know, but an important lesson nonetheless. See, once we truly accept that life is hard then it removes the power of that difficulty. It becomes not about making it easier, but about our ability to persevere. We can measure our growth by […]